“Three days! That’s just a weekend or the middle bit of a week. For years our relationship has been going downhill. Rows. Upsets. Arguments. Poor communication. How do we recover this in three days?“ This is a retreat for couples wanting to save a relationship in crisis.
Well, let me assure you, you can do it. I see it happening weekly. I’ve seen it happen a thousand times over nearly four decades. Forget all the psychobabble you may have read and the endless hours weekly getting more upset telling a bored therapist about how bad your last week together has been and just answer the following questions:
Four simple questions. If you have four ‘YES’ answers you can’t fail (even if it was hard work getting to these conclusions). And three days, two nights, is all it takes. Arrive Friday lunchtime with little or no hope, leave Sunday afternoon with a future. Or midweek if you prefer. These will be a very special three days. Focused, intense days. Three days devoted to getting it right. It’s certainly not ‘Relate’. It’s not a picnic, but it is worth it. (A slightly easier ride can be had over a five-day retreat which allows more time to practice the exercises devised specifically for your retreat). Our programme is individually tailored to YOUR marriage. This is no ‘one size fits all’ approach.
There are no complicated theories requiring a degree in psychology to understand. Just some simple concepts, exercises and common sense. Plus a great deal of information and treatments. Unlike many approaches to ‘couple counselling’ you will enjoy these. There is no psycho-archaeology. In other words I am not interested in your past or the mistakes you have made or the pain you have caused each other. Nor am I convinced that it is your background, your upbringing, your schooling, the way your parents treated you or the way they might have behaved that prevents you from overcoming the difficulties you are facing.
Nothing from your past stands in the way of you both being able to recover your marriage having given the four ‘YES’ answers. There are no endless case histories of how couples have made a hash of things. It is devoted to showing you both, personally and individually, what you have been doing wrong, how to stop doing those things and how to start doing what will make your marriage work from now. From the very first session. It is target orientated. There is a constant focus on how to start putting things right, no matter how many years they have being going wrong. Our objective is success. You don't have to be 'married' to save your relationship, this retreat is for all couples.
A structured process to help recover, then maintain, your relationship, is the foundation of this retreat. Our follow-up maintenance programme keeps you on track if you feel you need ongoing support as things change for the better.
"The only advice you should seek is from those with long and successful marriages behind them. They're the only therapists worth listening to."
Good advice as this is a question most couples are reluctant to ask a therapist before counselling starts.
"Different to any previous therapeutic approach. It was purposeful and dynamic - no navel-gazing required. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! "
Michelle and Terrence, London. July 2017
"So much better than all that painful analysis, charts, tasks and talk of 'communication skills' we have had to endure from other therapists. Enlightening. "
Pat and Christopher, Kent. January 2017
"Any couples going through similar difficulties like us would benefit greatly from this retreat. I can honestly say I thought 5 days would not be long enough - how wrong I was! Thank you David for changing our perspectives."
Sue and Chris, Cornwall. November 2016
"Expertly guided to get our relationship back on track. David offered a fresh perspective to our long established patterns of unhelpful behaviour plus tools to help us change things". "The retreat from start to finish is for couples that truthfully are there to really work. The outcomes and rewards reflect the work put in. Very pleased with content as the programme was flexible and tailored to meet our needs. We would highly recommend David."
Brian and Rebecca, Somerset. July 2016
"Our only regret is not coming to David sooner. What a difference just a few days can make. Thank you for giving me back my husband". "We would unreservedly recommend 'Therapy Retreats' to anyone experiencing relationship difficulties. Keep up the good work. Found it far better than 'Relate' counselling."
Jackie and Claude. December 2016
"We cannot recommend this retreat too highly or find a better way of investing in your relationship. So, in summary, 'Don't get divorced; get David'."
Richard and Sarah, Midlands. January 2016
"Excellent programme, using the power of cognition to train one's mind into new habits and ways of thinking. First day is challenging! David held us accountable to higher ideals and values. He guided us to train our minds to think differently and gave us confidence to see ourselves and each other more clearly. We feel much closer. Powerful! Thank you."
Debbie and Mike, USA. September 2017
"Our three days with David provided a much needed time -out as a couple to examine and strengthen our relationship. David's approach is serious, practical, no-nonsense, personal and experienced. It allowed us to gain clarity around our problems and provide solutions. I'm really pleased we came. Thank you!"
Claire and Alex, Hong Kong. July 2017
Our 3-Day Relationship Retreat's Objectives
SESSION 1 : To understand and eliminate past conditioning, habits and barriers to a harmonious relationship.
SESSION 2 : To establish science-based deep understanding of reasons for failure and ways to achieve future success.
SESSION 3 : To provide TOOLKIT to maintain progress made and ensure future strengthening.
'The retreat that claims to save your relationship in three days'
Anna Magee (Daily Telegraph) health website healthista.com
March 21 2016
First, do not despair. At Therapy retreats we do not take sides or play the 'blame game' so often experienced by our clients with previous therapists. Nor do we harp on about past suffering and expect you to retell us about the dreadful week, year or life you have had (which only serves the purpose of making you feel even worse and deepens your despair).
Our unique approach to resolving relationship problems takes a forward looking stance from the very first session. What the loving potential of your relationship can be is far more important to us than what you have been doing wrong for so long.
The start of the first session is usually marked by distress, upset and a sense of overwhelming fear that nothing can help as clients tell us how bad things are. At this stage they have lost all sense of what drew them together and how much is still there but buried under a seemingly impossible to resolve pile of hurt.
Two hours later life usually looks a little rosier.
At Therapy Retreats we are used to dealing with all the moans, groans and gripes revealed by the research. Plus many more it doesn't mention; the rows, the anger, the misperceptions and misunderstandings. We know where they come from, we know how they become a habit and we know how to eliminate them - quickly! Do not be undermined by the doomsayers who say there is no such thing as a 'quick fix'. Our results over the years and our glowing Testimonials prove otherwise.
Whether you are looking to harmonise a damaged relationship, overcome some loss of trust or faith in your partner (perhaps over an affair) or desperately dragging a marriage back from the brink of collapse our couples programmes will give you the tools and understanding necessary to achieve the goals you hope can be possible for your future together.
You can have every confidence that all is not lost, no matter how bleak things may look at present. It is never too late to have the relationship you want.
True Love never gives up.